eBook 1: GHOSTED (Janine’s Story)

When Janine met him, the stars couldn’t have aligned better for them. In fact, she thought she saw the real cupid (the cute pink thing with a bow, arrow, and the whole shebang) hovering over them. The clouds in the sky had even formed an image of them in their wedding attire and dotted their names with shiny stars. What could go wrong? (This story continues in GHOSTED 2 – Janine’s Story… get details inside this ebook).

eBook 2: GHOSTED – Ken’s Story

If love was the metric for a beautiful life, then Ken was winning at it. He had loving parents and siblings, a beautiful and pregnant wife, amazing friends and colleagues, and everywhere he went, he found favor. But life is a combination of many things, isn’t it? Ken would find out just how complex life could get when, at his colleague’s Ph.D. graduation party, he met the most gorgeous female he’d ever seen in real life, in movies, or even in his dreams. His boots were not knocked off him immediately, but a series of events would change his life forever. (This story continues in GHOSTED 1 – Ken’s Story — details inside this Prologue book)

Men’s Conference and Valentine’s Day

The secretive Men’s Conference, surrounding every Valentine’s Day, sounds like a creative idea. What with the undisclosed agenda and the undisclosed venues around the globe? Is it really an actual meeting or an excuse to flee from the pressures of the Love Season. (Find you out more)

The above are some of what you will find in this series (Broken by Love Season)
Love ought to be a good thing, but often, it’s most people’s nightmare. Let’s talk about the Love Season (the period around Valentine’s Day) or the Holidays when the pressure to have and exhibit LOVE goes through the roof. This pressure has ruined many good relationships, forced people to hook up (and break hearts) for the wrong reasons, forced people to overstay in abusive relationships, and of course, there are numerous stories that begin with the LOVE SEASON or Holidays.

Series: Broken by Love Season

This series (BROKEN BY LOVE SEASON) takes you through a detailed journey that the expectations and behavior surrounding the Love Season and Holidays brings. I hope that by sharing these live examples, you will feel safe in your skin and refuse to succumb to pressure around things that are not good for you. That we can all be more careful and sensitive towards other people’s situations. As you laugh and cry, and experience different emotions throughout each book, I hope that you can find gratitude in your life, comfort in your pain (if you have been through some of the shared experiences), and get tips to heal from love trauma and move on to make your life great again (or greater than before).

Series’ Books – You can Get Them All Here

THE Following BOOKS are part of THIS SERIES (BROKEN BY LOVE SEASON), and you can choose only the one(s) you are excited to read.

1. Prologue (This specific mini-book. It has provided the context for the series and A BIT MORE CONTENT/ DESCRIPTION OF EACH OF THE FOLLOWING BOOKS, including a link to EACH of the BOOKS)

2. Ghosted (Book 1) – Ken’s story
3. Ghosted (Book 2) – Janine’s Story
4. The Pressure: Expectations on men and women during the holidays and Love Season
5. Valentine’s Day and Men’s Conference: The Pressure is On!
6. Valentine’s Day – A Woman’s Affair! Is It?
7. Beware 1! What to Expect and how to protect yourself during the Love Season and Holidays
8. Beware 2! What to expect when Love Season and Holidays Ends
9. How to Cope with being duped: Healing from Love Trauma
10. Moving On: Planning your Life/ Pursuit of Dreams- Have a Plan
11. The Negative Impact of Societal Pressure on people during holidays and Love Season
12. Way Forward: What must we do as individuals and as a society?

You can find more details on each of these ebooks inside this ebook.

I am Maggie’s DIY – bringing you this Series on Broken by Love Season

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Book Link – Click Here to Get the Entire Book on GHOSTED- Ken’s Story

He was certainly in for the ride of his life. A ride that, had he known that this is how things were going to turn out, he would not have touched that situation even if his life depended on it. Or, maybe he would have. After all, he considered himself wise, cunning to an extent. This was one tempting situation he couldn’t look away from. Besides, throughout his life. Ken honestly felt that he could trade his life for the desirable goods that were dangled before him.

He did not worry about getting caught. There was no reason he should get caught, and if, by bad luck, he did get caught, he knew in his heart of hearts that he would easily talk himself out of the trouble.
What Ken had not counted on, however, is that getting caught would be the least of his problems. There was something lurking out there that was a bigger stake. He was just about to learn that when the devil knows your door, he will come knocking.
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This book (Ghosted: Ken’s Story) is one in the series BROKEN BY LOVE SEASON

Book Link – Click Here to Get the Entire Book on GHOSTED- Ken’s Story

Related Books

A similar book is Ghosted (Janine’s Story) available on Kobo and Amazon written and published by Maggie’s DIY

About the Series: BROKEN BY THE LOVE SEASON (Free Prologue eBook)

Love ought to be a good thing, but often, it’s most people’s nightmare. Let’s talk about the Love Season (the period around Valentine’s Day) or the Holidays when the pressure to have and exhibit LOVE goes through the roof. This pressure has ruined many good relationships, forced people to hook up (and break hearts) for the wrong reasons, forced people to overstay in abusive relationships, and of course, there are numerous stories that begin with the LOVE SEASON or Holidays.

This series (BROKEN BY LOVE SEASON) takes you through a detailed journey that the expectations and behaviour surrounding the Love Season and Holidays brings. I hope that by sharing these live examples, you will feel safe in your skin and refuse to succumb to pressure around things that are not good for you. That we can all be more careful and sensitive towards other people’s situations. As you laugh and cry, and experience different emotions throughout each book, I hope that you can find gratitude in your life, comfort in your pain (if you have been through some of the shared experiences), and get tips to heal from love trauma and move on to make your life great again (or greater than before).
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THE Following BOOKS are part of THIS SERIES (BROKEN BY LOVE SEASON), and you can choose only the one(s) you are excited to read.

You can find more details on each of these ebooks inside the FREE prologue; it’s the first book of the series Broken by Love Series- just click download and enjoy reading it.

1.Prologue (FREE on both Kobo and Amazon). It gives the context for the series and A BIT MORE CONTENT/ DESCRIPTION OF EACH OF THE FOLLOWING BOOKS, including a link to EACH of the BOOKS)
2.Ghosted (Book 1) – Janine’s Story
3.Ghosted (Book 2) – Ken’s story
4.Love Season Red Flags: What to expect before, during, and after the Love Season and Holiday seasons
5.Healing from Love Trauma: How to Cope with being duped
6.The Pressure: Expectations on men and women during the holidays and Love Season
7.Valentine’s Day and Men’s Conference: The Pressure is On!
8.Valentine’s Day – A Woman’s Affair! Is It?
9.Moving On: Planning your Life/ Pursuit of Dreams- Have a Plan
10.The Negative Impact of Societal Pressure on people during holidays and Love Season
11.Way Forward: What must we do as individuals and as a society?

Read all of Maggie’s Books Here

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Read the Book (GHOSTED – Janine’s Story) Here

She couldn’t be seeing the message right. Maybe her phone had had a malfunction and was delivering other people’s messages to her phone. Yes, that had to be it. This was a wrong number delivery.

Except that it was not, and she knew that number. She had spent months trying to purge it from her mind but it was permanently edged there.

Janine’s story is one that will take you through a rollercoaster of emotions. Let me know what you think at the end of it

The Beginning

Click Here to Get The Book – GHOSTED: Janine’s Story

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This book is part of the BROKEN BY LOVE SEASON Series (check the bottom of this description for a full list of the other books, and where/how to get them).

Love ought to be a good thing, but often, it’s most people’s nightmare. Let’s talk about the Love Season (the period around Valentine’s Day) or the Holidays when the pressure to have and exhibit LOVE goes through the roof. This pressure has ruined many good relationships, forced people to hook up (and break hearts) for the wrong reasons, forced people to overstay in abusive relationships, and of course, there are numerous stories that begin with the LOVE SEASON or Holidays.

This series (BROKEN BY LOVE SEASON) takes you through detailed journeys that the expectations and behavior surrounding the Love Season and Holidays brings. I hope that by sharing these live examples, you will feel safe in your skin and refuse to succumb to pressure around things that are not good for you. May we can all be more careful and sensitive towards other people’s situations.

As you laugh and cry, and experience different emotions throughout each book, I hope that you can find gratitude in your life, comfort in your pain (if you have been through some of the shared experiences), and get tips to heal from love trauma and move on to make your life great again (or greater than before).

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THE Following BOOKS are part of THIS SERIES, and you can choose only the one(s) you are excited to read.

1. Prologue (This mini-book gives you the context for the series, as well as A BIT MORE CONTENT/ DESCRIPTION OF EACH OF THE FOLLOWING BOOKS, including a link to EACH of the BOOKS)

2. Ghosted (Book 1) – Ken’s story
3. Ghosted (Book 2) – Janine’s Story
4. The Pressure: Expectations on men and women during the holidays and Love Season
5. Valentine’s Day and Men’s Conference: The Pressure is On!
6. Valentine’s Day – A Woman’s Affair! Is It?
7. Beware 1! What to Expect and how to protect yourself during the Love Season and Holidays
8. Beware 2! What to expect when Love Season and Holidays Ends
9. How to Cope with being duped: Healing from Love Trauma
10. Moving On: Planning your Life/ Pursuit of Dreams- Have a Plan
11. The Negative Impact of Societal Pressure on people during holidays and Love Season
12. Way Forward: What must we do as individuals and as a society?

Read all of Maggie’s Books Here

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Is it too much? Is it too little?

Get the Book Here – Click Here to Read the entire Book

Apparently, the Men’s Conference takes place every year around Valentine’s Day or around major public holidays seasons. It could start some days before, run through Valentine’s Day/ Holidays Seasons, and last a few days after the day. Men are ‘supposed’ to ‘disappear’ on the eve of the Lovers’ Day (the epitome of the Love Season) and come back way past Valentine’s Day/ Holiday Seasons; effectively saving themselves from all the pressure that comes with the Love Season and holidays; gifting, presence, effort, basically the whole shebang. For other men, it is just a nice excuse to abdicate their responsibilities on the day, just as they have been doing.

Whatever the reasons, Men’s conference is something worth exploring for it is not without consequences. Consequences to the men who choose to go. Consequences for the men who choose not to go. Consequences for the lovers who are abandoned. Consequences for society/ the public. Consequences for innocent third parties.

Is it right or wrong? Who is to blame? Men? Women? Society/ the public?

Get the Book- Men’s Conference – Here – Click Here to Read the entire Book

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“Every force has an equal and opposite reaction” That’s Newton’s Third Law of Motion and it applies to our actions as human beings.

The more we push/ pressure people, the more resistance they give. That resistance, while it may serve some people well temporarily, it comes at a cost to those people or to others. SOMEBODY IS GOING TO GET HURT!
Let’s say that one more time, dramatically this time, “somebady gon get hurt”

Our actions over the Love Season or Holiday Seasons are NOT WITHOUT Consequences – Maggie’s DIY

Freedom of Choice? We are free to choose but we are not free from the consequences of our actions.

Whatever the reasons, Men’s conference is something worth exploring for it is not without consequences. Consequences to the men who choose to go. Consequences for the men who choose not to go. Consequences for the lovers who are abandoned. Consequences for society/ the public. Consequences for innocent third parties.

You can get the Book- Men’s Conference – Here
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This book is part of the BROKEN BY LOVE SEASON series. Other books in this series include:

You can find more details on each of these ebooks inside the FREE prologue; it’s the first book of the series Broken by Love Series- just click download and enjoy reading it.
1.Prologue (FREE on both Kobo and Amazon). It gives the context for the series and A BIT MORE CONTENT/ DESCRIPTION OF EACH OF THE FOLLOWING BOOKS, including a link to EACH of the BOOKS)
2.Ghosted (Book 1) – Janine’s Story
3.Ghosted (Book 2) – Ken’s story
4.Love Season Red Flags: What to expect before, during, and after the Love Season and Holiday seasons
5.Healing from Love Trauma: How to Cope with being duped
6.The Pressure: Expectations on men and women during the holidays and Love Season
7.Valentine’s Day and Men’s Conference: The Pressure is On!
8.Valentine’s Day – A Woman’s Affair! Is It?
9.Moving On: Planning your Life/ Pursuit of Dreams- Have a Plan
10.The Negative Impact of Societal Pressure on people during holidays and Love Season
11.Way Forward: What must we do as individuals and as a society?

I am Maggie’s DIY – bringing you this Series on Broken by Love Season.

Read all of Maggie’s Books Here

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We live in societies where we have people who cannot let someone live life; express their joy or sadness. People who will minimize/ trash your experience for no reason or just because others have been through it too.

Healthy self-expression and the ability for a person to live his/ her life are key in life. Everybody has a right to process his good or bad times in a manner that gives them peace; I am not talking of people who hurt others in the process.

Now, back to the party-poopers; enemies of personal progress.

People who will not let you be happy or celebrate something because they know someone who had a better experience than you or because they know there is something sad happening somewhere in the world.

People who will not let you express your anguish or mourn your losses because others have had a worse experience or because they are having a better time and do not want to be bothered.

The same people who want to dictate to you how you should mourn in a ‘civilized manner’. What is a ‘civilized manner’?

Here is the thing; everyone has a right to his her emotions and experiences. The right to experience their life’s events without judgement.

CREATE YOUR HEALTHY ENVIRONMENT

It takes more energy than most people realize to create a peaceful world for you and your loved ones. Walking away is never easy. But if your sanity and life depend on your walking away from situations and people that threaten your existence, you gotta do it.

Move away from selfish people who don’t care about you or your need to experience your life and process/ express your emotions as you should.

Open your mouth wide and talk as loudly as you can about whatever experience is threatening your sanity and life; let them close their ears/ eyes if they have already heard about it or are simply not interested in anything less than perfect. Are they perfect? Maybe it is the universe’s way of getting rid of those who are not meant to be there.

Trust me, you would rather be perfectly safe and alive, worrying about real life things, than be dead because you cared too much for people wh0 were doing their best to abuse you.

Things Happen to Human Beings: Everyone has a right to talk

Death, sickness, injustice, violence, etc. has happened to humanity since the beginning of time. That does not negate the pain, anguish, torment, etc. that someone experiences today through such, and as such, no one should be silenced in favour of previous experiences.

The #MeToo movement, which swept the planet over in the last quarter of 2017, changed people’s perception of a couple of things. That just because sexual harrassment is widespread and the story has been told by ‘one too many’ people does not negate the experience of other victims; anyone can and should feel free to feel, acknowledge and share their truth whether it happens today or decades ago.

Life’s Achievements: To Celebrate or Not?

I cringe when I see someone share their wonderful experience such as pregnancy, graduation, mental health healing, physical healing, reconciliation, career success, etc. and some trolls are like “does he/ she think s/he is the first one? “Other have had that and more we don’t brag about it!”

Dude/ dudette, how does someone’s joy negate your experience? Leave people to live their lives.

I understand that you may not be in a position to fully celebrate with such a person, but for crying in a bucket, do not trash or ruin their experience with negative words and actions. Do NOT mobilize other people to trash someone’s good experience for no just reason.

Life’s Losses: To Grief or Not?

It breaks my heart when people who are grieving one sort of loss or another are guilt-tripped into not expressing or having their emotions in the name of “others are going through worse”.

Sure we should be empathetic to the plight of others but dude/ dudette, don’t negate someone’s pain based on your ignorance.

We are Humans First: Everything Else Later

I believe as human beings we have the capacity to be genuinely empathetic to other people’s situations while acknowledging our own lives.

We can be perfectly happy for someone who is experiencing something great in his/ her life even when ourselves are passing through life’s torrents.

We are also capable of mourning with other even when we are experiencing the best moments of our lives.

Emotional Healing

Your healing and the actualization of your dreams comes from acknowledging your life as an independent entity. You cannot pour from an empty cup. You need to do the best for you.

Yes, I know. Most societies want to bully people into being of service to everyone else and guilt-tripping people into thinking or feeling that self care is evil. Well, I am rising above any and all society that disregards my existence!

Live Life to the fullest

Career Success?

Did you just hit a career milestone or business milestone that you are absolutely thrilled about? Be Happy. Celebrate the best way you want?

Dealing with Loss

Did you lose something or someone and you are distraught about it? Mourn it/ them to the extent you can.

You have a right to. Let no one silence you into ‘trying to behave civilized’ when you are falling apart. Seek help of any kind if you need it for your healing. Let no one tell you that they have seen people who have lost more than you. So what? You shouldn’t mourn your losses just because someone else somewhere in the globe already experienced such? The story of Ted Josiah is touching and his desire to mourn his wife’s death even as he creates a safe world for his infant daughter and himself.

Getting a working relationship?

Did you get engaged or are getting married or having a baby? Celebrate my dear. Be happy. Yes life may have happened alternatively for some people and some people may be going through some tough times. BUT you have a right to experience your moment. Let no one tell you that they have seen better engagements or weddings or babies or ceremonies. Let your moment be yours. You can listen to ‘wise counsel’ but choose what to believe and how to live your life.

Dealing with Trauma

Are you trying to get over a past trauma? Abuse, loss, health issues, etc? Sing like a bird honey if talking about it is your process to healing. Talk about it until you have processed it.

Yes, some people will distance themselves from you. FINE! Let them be, they have their own ideal lives, and you have too. But be weary of people who only want to be around you when you are smelling like roses but ‘think you are too much of a baggage if you are experiencing something tough in life’.

In my life, I do not need such. They are like the shadow that will be with you when the sun shines (and all is beautiful) and they will leave you at the first instance of trouble. Isn’t when you are in trouble when you need someone to count on?

Alternatively; treat them as they treat you.

Of Pregnancy and Children:

I totally believe pregnancy is BEAUTIFUL and so are babies. I also believe everyone has a different experience of the exhilarating and the exhausting journey for both pregnancy and children. Pregnant mothers, fathers, and child-rearing people have a right to celebrate their moments as wildly as they can comprehend. I also believe that they have a right to express their exhaustion and frustration and CONCERNS about either of these two without someone shutting them up with “we have seen others – what’s the big deal with yours?”

If someone is pregnant and want to tell the whole world about it, s/he should be allowed to. Trolls should take a back seat and stop with their negative vibe. It is not like anyone experiences pregnancy or child birth or child rearing for others. Let people live their lives. Ignore them  if you have nothing nice to say. It is not like they are singing in your ear about.

Unrealized Dreams and Frustration

It is frustrating to want something/ someone and not get it for whatever reasons. Be it a job, spouse, child(ren), family, social life, etc. everyone has a right to dream and try to pursue their dreams. Everyone also has a right to feel frustrated when things are not falling into place; no one should shut such people up because outsiders may not comprehend the need that such a person has for what s/he wants.

Graduating?

Some people graduate at 17 and others at 50 or older. Everybody has a RIGHT to pursue their dreams and be thrilled by their experience at their age.

Parting Shot

If you feel muffled and unable to express what you are going through, push through anyway. Dare to defy the voices that want to limit you. If people come in the way of your life, leave them. Those people do NOT care about you or your experiences because they favour something else or nothing at all.

Your experiences do not take priority to them. Chances are: these are the same people who go on and on about their own experiences and expect everyone to drop everything and attend to them; yet they could care less about your experiences. Be wary of such people if you have such in your family, circle of friends or colleagues.

DO not let anyone convince you that you do not matter. It is okay if you do not matter to them, BUT you DO matter to yourself and should take the best care you need.

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